Hugh Singerline asked about information on gay marriages, specifically "etiquette" material. Here are some books with relevant information: "Lesbian and Gay Marriage: Private Commitments, Public Ceremonies" by Suzanne Sherman ($16.95) This collection of personal narratives explores the hotly debated issue of same-sex marriage. The 24 interviews with lesbians and gays who have celebrated wedding ceremonies as well as couples who remain unmarried or choose not to marry reveal the qualitites that bind people in lifetime partnerships as well as the everyday tensions of committed relationships. "Ceremonies of the Heart: Celebrating Lesbian Unions" edited by Becky Butler ($14.95) Covers a diversity of 25 personal accounts of women's spirityality and their renewed interest in ritual ceremonies, from the momentous decision to the day of celebrating their lesbian partnership. Also covers vast range of lesbian unions throughout history and what people are doing today to legalize same-sex partnerships. "Weddings from the Heart: Ceremonies for an Unforgettable Wedding" by Daphne Rose Kingma ($9.95) A book for those who do not want a traditional wedding, comes complete with five different ceremonies. Couples can use one ceremony in its entirety, mix and match parts of the fiive, or incorporate selections into their own church's ceremony. Also helps deepen the emotional, psychological, and spiritual aspects of the ceremony. "Two of Us: Affirming, Celebrating and Symbolizing Gay and Lesbian Relations" by Larry J. Uhrig ($6.95) Satisfying relationships don't just happen, they are built. Down-to-earth advice about why it is a mistake to copy traditional marriages, the five different stages a relationship will go through, dangers of hurrying a relationship, and more. "Legal Guide for Lesbian and Gay Couples" by Hayden Curry and Denis Clifford ($21.95) This seventh revised edition covers all legal aspects of gays living together: buying and selling property, relating to former spouses, child custody and visitation rights, living-together arrangements, and estate planning. Includes sample contracts, forms, agreements, and wills. You should be able to find these titles at any gay and lesbian bookshop. If you have trouble locating them, let me know in e-mail and I'll tell you how to order them from us. - Deacon Maccubbin, Lambda Rising Bookstores E-mail address: lambdarising@his.com