Date: Wed, 3 Aug 1994 19:04:13 -0400 From: ae913@freenet.carleton.ca (Timothy Ross Wilson) Reproduced with the permission of the University of Toronto Faculty of Law Review University of Toronto Faculty of Law Review / Volume 52, Fall 1993, pp. 170-205. Same-Sex Spousal Benefits and the Evolving Conception of Family* PETER RUSK This paper explores the discrimination faced by same-sex couples claiming spousal benefits and is divided into three parts: Part I, which surveys the extent and origin of this discrimination; Part II, which analyses the protection afforded by the Charter; and Part III, which discusses tactical considerations relevant to those seeking to redress this inequity. The author illustrates how this denial of entitlement emanates as much from discriminatory judicial reasoning as it does from discriminatory legislation. It is also shown how this discrimination is reflective of the entrenchment of male-heterosexual privilege in our society and the idealization of the conventional family form. Although arguments which focus on "dismantling" the "family" are acknowledged as being integral in effecting long-term change, it is argued that "sameness" or "inclusion" arguments are necessary to effect an initial shift in the status quo conception of family. Cet article examine la discrimination a laquelle les couples du meme sexe font face lorsqu'ils reclament les avantages sociaux dont beneficient les couples heterosexuels. Ce texte est divise en trois parties: la premiere partie se veut etre un survol de l'etendu et des origines de cette discrimination; la deuxieme partie analyse la protection qu'offre la Charte canadienne des droits et libertes; et la troisieme partie examine les considerations tactiques pertinentes pour ceux qui veulent redresser ces injustices. L'auteur demontre que les difficultes d'acces aux avantages sociaux pour les couples du meme sexe provient autant de decisions juridiques discriminatoires que proviennent, selon l'auteur, de lois discriminatoires. Cette forme de discrimination reflete la repandu du privilege dont beneficient les hommes heterosexuels dans notre societe et l'idealisation de la famille conventionelle. Tandis que l'auteur est d'accord avec ceux qui disent qu'il faut "demanteler" la "famille" pour effectuer des changements a long terme, il propose que les arguments qui s'appuient sur la "similarite" et "l'inclusion" sont necessaire pour engendrer une transformation initiale dans la conception que nous avons maintenant de la famille. ______________________ * I wish to thank Janet Mosher, who thoughtfully encouraged initial drafts of this paper, and the l.S.D. Tory Foundation, whose suppon prompted subsequent revisions. ______________________ Introduction In Canada, same-sex couples are discriminated against vis-a-vis opposite-sex couples. Same-sex couples are denied benefits available to opposite-sex couples and thus are discouraged from forming functional families.1 This discrimination is perpetuated not only by legislative exclusions but also by a judiciary that often interprets legislation in a discriminatory manner. In order to effectively redress this pervasive unfairness it is necessary not only to clearly identify areas of discrimination but also to recognize their entrenched male heterosexist roots. In addition, it is necessary to address perhaps the more problematic issue of how, once exposed, this discrimination can be remedied.2 The underlying theme of this "how-to" debate concerns whether equity can best be achieved by arguing for the inclusion of same-sex couples in the "conventional family," and hence its benefits, or whether it is preferable to opt for an approach that is more active in deconstructing an institution many see as inherently oppressive and exclusionary.3 ___________________ 1. The term "functional family" is meant to be an inclusive term that refers to individuals who unite for purposes such as childbearing, child rearing, emotional support, financial support, and cohabitation. (The concept of a "functional family" is discussed further in Part III.) ln contrast, the term "conventional family" refers to a family unit in which there are a man and a woman who typically are married and who typically have children. According to this conventional stereotype, it is usually the man who engages in paid employment and the woman who performs unpaid house and child-rearing work. "Ideally" this family is also white and middle-class. It is important to note that the term "conventional family" is used instead of the more common "traditional family" as a means of challenging the presupposition that families have always conformed to what is now the dominant family form. In fact, it is arguable that the current dominant conception of family extends only as far back as Judeo-Christianity itself. See D. Greenberg, The Construction of Homosexuality (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1988). 2. The implicit assumption in this article is that political/social change and legislative change happen concurrently and reinforce one another. Changing social conceptions of what constitutes an appropriate family spur legislative change and vice versa In this respect, arguments that advocate political/social change are interchangeable with those that advocate legislative change. 3. The footnotes to this article should serve as an invitation to the reader to explore further the issues discussed. This article contributes to the existing scholarship by focusing its discussion of discrimination on the following issues: (1) how resistance to lesbian and gay liberation can be seen as an attempt to safeguard a male-dominated, heterosexist social order; (2) the way in which difference theory is used to perpetuate this discrimination; (3) how judicial prejudice has undercut protection afforded by the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms (see infra note 83); (4) strategies lesbian and gay activists can employ when advocating for change; and (5) how this debate contributes to the evolution of the concept of "family." It should also be noted, at the outset, that all of the articles, judgments, and texts referred to in this article reflect, at least to some extent, the perspectives of the individual writers. Although my perspective as a gay man is relevant to the discussion offered in this article, it is by no means determinative. As within any other group, there is wide divergence within the lesbian and gay community as to how these issues can best be resolved. This divergence will be highlighted in Part III. __________________